Authentic “Who”, Praying for the first official Marriage
There is a place where the heart meets heaven, the place of prayer. For every believer seeking the right “who to marry”, the best way to start is not in the dating scene or among friends, but on your knees, looking for the One who knows everything. The journey of marriage begins best in the quiet space of prayer.
In addition, marriage is not just a life decision; it is a choice that shapes your destiny. Who you marry can bring you closer to God or slowly pull you away. That is why, no matter how much you love someone, you need God’s confirmation to say, “Yes, this is the one.” But how do you pray about choosing a spouse? What do you even say?
Why Pray About Who to Marry?
Because God cares. If He knows the number of hairs on your head, how much more does He care about your life partner? Proverbs 19:14 reminds us, “Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the Lord.” The same goes for husbands; a Godly man is found not by chance, but through divine guidance. Many people marry based on guesswork, feelings, or pressure. But feelings fade, pressure can lead to regret, and guesswork is risky for something as permanent as marriage.
Steps to Praying for Who to Marry
1. Start With Surrender: Before you express your wish for a spouse, surrender your desires. Jesus taught us in Gethsemane to pray, “Not my will, but yours be done” (Luke 22:42). Can you give up your timeline, preferences, and fears to God? Can you trust His choice over yours?
2. Seek Peace Beyond Excitement: Philippians 4:7 promises, “And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” When you pray, peace should guide you. If you feel anxious, disturbed, or rushed in your heart, pause. God usually pairs His yes with peace, even amid challenges.
3. Involve Fasting: There are times when prayer needs the added strength of fasting. Fasting sharpens your spirit and quiets your body. As you fast, ask God to silence every voice that is not His.
Pray for Clarity
1. Not Just Confirmation: Sometimes we pray with a person already in mind, asking God just to confirm what we want. That can be risky. Instead, pray: “Lord, open my eyes to see who is truly ready for me. If this person is not from you, shut the door gently but firmly.” God may reveal His answer in dreams, through feelings of peace or discomfort, or through situations that either bring you together or pull you apart.
2. Pray for Discernment of Character: Ask God to reveal what is hidden; the character beneath charm, the heart behind the smile. Appearances only has misled a lot of people to uncover flaws too late. Pray: “Lord, expose what needs to be revealed before I commit. Protect my heart from deception.”
3. Pray for Alignment of Purpose: Not every good person is the right person for you. Pray that God connects you with someone whose life purpose matches yours. Amos 3:3 asks, “Can two walk together unless they agree?”
A Personal Story: Saved by Prayer
A woman infatuated with David from his workplace. She was elegant, skilled in worship, and seemed to love him back. But when he prayed deeply, he felt uneasy. Confused, he kept praying and added fasting. Soon, the woman’s true behavior began to show. She was arrogant, manipulative, and dismissive of his calling into both ministry and work. Though heartbroken, David stepped back. Two years later, he met his wife, a humble and spiritually mature woman. Today, he expresses gratitude, saying, “Prayer saved my destiny. I almost married what I wanted, not what I needed.”
How to Recognize God’s Voice
- Peace: An unshakeable calm in your spirit.
- Scripture: God may confirm through His Word.
- Counsel: Mature believers affirm what God is saying.
- Circumstances: Doors open or close naturally under His guidance.
Scriptures to Pray Through
• James 1:5: “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all.”
• Psalm 32:8: “I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my loving eye on you.”
• Proverbs 3:5-6: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart… He will make your paths straight.”
Beloved reader, prayer is not just another task; it is the key to wisdom. The person you marry can speed up your destiny or derail it. Don’t rely on your eyes alone; trust the One who sees beyond. On your knees, you gain the insight to choose wisely. Let God write your love story. His pen never makes mistakes.
